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On the Sometimes Horrible, Mostly Hilarious Forms of Hate

Is being hated just another life hazard that you cannot avoid so long as you are being yourself?

So, let’s say you’re a feminist or an environmentalist which are two groups of people who are statistically severely hated. These can be some overwhelmingly powerful, defining factors when it comes to who you are, what you say, and how you carry yourself. Your personality identifies with a group of people who are actively trying to change the system. A group with unpopular opinions, stubborn goals, and marginalized identities. A group that constantly re-examines traditional thinking and can make people very uncomfortable.  A lot of people are just going to want to shoot the messenger or blindly hate on you. So if you’re just being you and that inspires hate but harms no one then, once again, screw ’em.

But I’m not an activist or anything! I’m just being regular old me and people just seem to hate me easily for my [insert-hateable-quality-here]!

Oh, ok! You’re just out there, living your life, embracing your hate-able self in broad daylight. You’re freakishly obsessed with antique cars. You don’t know how to tell a joke. You’re always an hour late to everything. You’re extremely self-absorbed. You always always ALWAYS forget to pay people back. You’re always ecstatically happy. You tend to brag a little too much. You buy every new gadget the minute it comes out even though you clearly don’t need it. You’re a self-proclaimed ‘yogi.’ You love your dog so much that you treat it better than a human infant. Or whatever.

Look, here’s what it comes down to: you either care or you don’t. That’s it. If you care enough about this hate-trend you’ve inspired and it really seems to bother you then maybe try changing that hate-able tendency so that whichever group of people or specific person you want to impress starts liking you.

And, just as a personal a-side, you have to know that possessing any of the above or other ‘annoying’ qualities doesn’t necessarily mean there’s anything wrong with you or who you are–just how that particular quality strikes people. And that arrangement can be one tricky tightrope act. Some people really will just hate you no matter what. Why go around pandering to someone else’s idea of what constitutes a ‘good person’ when, in less than two seconds, you could probably come up with something equally hate-worthy about them? I’m not telling you to hate people back, I’m just saying that he who does not possess a single hate-worthy attribute shall cast the first trolly comment.

I mean, someone who doesn’t really know me just comes out of nowhere and starts hating me? And that’s the kind of person I’m supposed to work ultra-super hard to win over? Eh.

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7 thoughts on “On the Sometimes Horrible, Mostly Hilarious Forms of Hate

  1. Hilarious, sharp, and witty! I can see why you could be hated so easily… you’re a writing goldmine.

    I hope you don’t think this is forward, but I just have to ask. What in God’s name are you doing with Kuwaiti magazines? You should be writing for The New Yorker or Vanity Fair.

    1. Simon! Those are all huge compliments coming from you–thank you for that much-needed dose of flattery!

      And Kuwaiti magazines can actually surprise you, as I’m sure you already know. There’s a lot of untapped potential and stories worth being told in the industry. I love that fresh energy that Kuwaiti magazines provide. Plus, I think it’s safe to say that The New Yorker might scoff at this humble piece.

  2. loved your post , sharp and to the point , I know I am not perfect , I know that i am annoying sometimes , but a i faced a hate war from a group of people that in a point they made me feel that I wanna leave the country and hide away

    there is no specific thing that made them mad or hate me , they just got irritated of whatever I say , do , wear and even if I am happy

    at the beginning I used to stay away from them , do u remember when I meet you at the NY event by bassuma ?? they were there and I decided to leave because I don`t want to hear anything

    Now I am stronger , I decided that those people will never ever control my life they are going to hate no matter what and this is their problem

    Love you beautiful

    1. Oh, I’m so sorry you’re having to go through that kind of negativity, m’dear. I remember you being a little shifty that night and wanting to leave pretty early.

      It really is one of the worst feelings knowing that someone seems to hate you for no reason other than the fact that you are just being yourself. I know exactly what that feels like and I’ve been put in similarly awkward situations during social events over this last year.

      I also used to be really bothered and get visibly upset when some people would go out of their way to show me how much they hated me or hated the things I said. But now I just shrug and laugh it off. Not everyone is meant to like us and we aren’t meant to like everyone. Life goes on.

      I’m so happy to hear that you’re not letting those Negative Nanncies get to you anymore and that you’re embracing your wonderful self openly and happily!

      Lots of love, m’dear!

  3. I once witnessed someone being super rude to you the First time I met you. The first thought that came to my head was ” She is soooo jealous cuz she can never have the same literal creativity you do”. The first feeling was pity.. that some humans would rather put all their energy into bringing a great person down rather than moving their behind and trying to get to their level. It still shocks me everytime I see this, but I am also thankful that I am always shocked cuz that just means I could never ever be that person. Love and Sunshine , W

  4. Well said cousin 😀 (y) although i think it should be hard for a normal human being to hate! Another thing , when u hate someone it means that u gave him a large space in ur head , so basically hating u someone equals finding him/her interesting! For me if i dont love someone it doesnt mean that i hate him/her it means that i really dont care and indifferent to their existance.

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