Is being hated just another life hazard that you cannot avoid so long as you are being yourself?
So, let’s say you’re a feminist or an environmentalist which are two groups of people who are statistically severely hated. These can be some overwhelmingly powerful, defining factors when it comes to who you are, what you say, and how you carry yourself. Your personality identifies with a group of people who are actively trying to change the system. A group with unpopular opinions, stubborn goals, and marginalized identities. A group that constantly re-examines traditional thinking and can make people very uncomfortable. A lot of people are just going to want to shoot the messenger or blindly hate on you. So if you’re just being you and that inspires hate but harms no one then, once again, screw ’em.
But I’m not an activist or anything! I’m just being regular old me and people just seem to hate me easily for my [insert-hateable-quality-here]!
Oh, ok! You’re just out there, living your life, embracing your hate-able self in broad daylight. You’re freakishly obsessed with antique cars. You don’t know how to tell a joke. You’re always an hour late to everything. You’re extremely self-absorbed. You always always ALWAYS forget to pay people back. You’re always ecstatically happy. You tend to brag a little too much. You buy every new gadget the minute it comes out even though you clearly don’t need it. You’re a self-proclaimed ‘yogi.’ You love your dog so much that you treat it better than a human infant. Or whatever.
Look, here’s what it comes down to: you either care or you don’t. That’s it. If you care enough about this hate-trend you’ve inspired and it really seems to bother you then maybe try changing that hate-able tendency so that whichever group of people or specific person you want to impress starts liking you.
And, just as a personal a-side, you have to know that possessing any of the above or other ‘annoying’ qualities doesn’t necessarily mean there’s anything wrong with you or who you are–just how that particular quality strikes people. And that arrangement can be one tricky tightrope act. Some people really will just hate you no matter what. Why go around pandering to someone else’s idea of what constitutes a ‘good person’ when, in less than two seconds, you could probably come up with something equally hate-worthy about them? I’m not telling you to hate people back, I’m just saying that he who does not possess a single hate-worthy attribute shall cast the first trolly comment.
I mean, someone who doesn’t really know me just comes out of nowhere and starts hating me? And that’s the kind of person I’m supposed to work ultra-super hard to win over? Eh.