Why do people hate you?
You’re a nice person, right? I mean, sure, you can be a little sassy on occasion but you’re not by any means a terrible person. You couldn’t possibly have done or said anything worthy of amassing that much blood-curdled hate from people. Look, sometimes hate is general, misguided, and highly impersonal. Other times it can be extremely specific. Either way, you can probably boil it down to one specific sentiment which you feel like people might be having a problem with. Usually people ‘hate’ you because you’re being annoying about something.
Are you being annoying?
– Nope. They just hate me.
Eh. Somewhere out there in the world is some ridiculous freak who thinks baby laughter, sunshine, a cool autumn breeze, adorable kitten videos, and chocolate are annoying. Screw ’em.
– Yes, and I do it on purpose.
Well, then you know you’re going to be hated from the get-go. You may actually be enjoying it a little.
– Yes, but I’m not doing it on purpose and now I feel horrible.
If it was an accident and it’s really got you torn up you can do one of two things. You can clarify your intentions, own up to your mistake, and apologize to anyone you’ve offended directly. Or you can just accept that no one’s perfect and you did an annoying thing which we all occasionally do and which got you hated by someone. It happens to all of us. Don’t beat yourself up about it, BUT FIX IT.