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The Complete Guide to Getting Zero Closure (And Being Ok With It)

  • Pretend you’re someone else.

Think about your problem and try to imagine what LITERALLY ANY OTHER PERSON ON THE FACE OF THE EARTH WOULD DO. Imagine someone who you consider to be the most stress-free, levelheaded, brilliant problem-solver. Imagine how they would find a conclusion to your problem without any added judgments or anxieties to worry about. Now take that conclusion as a rare, judgement-free approach and try to imagine all the possible outcomes that you can yield from this new perspective. Do this again and again until you’ve seen the problem from as many angles as humanly possible. Do this until you feel like you can see every single person’s motives all at the same time.

  • Back to you.

And we’re back! Your own perspective, in your own head, and all the looming anxiety of your own problems all over again. Bummer, but kind of cool BECAUSE NOW YOU HAVE THE BENEFIT OF ADDED PERSPECTIVE.

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2 thoughts on “The Complete Guide to Getting Zero Closure (And Being Ok With It)

  1. A very touchy topic that has personally been looming around my subconscious for the past 5 odd years. I’m in a similar situation with a high school friend and till this day try to analyse on how and why the relationship faded. Although, we hardly bump into each other like in your situation……ouch! Akward! Despite some attempts every once in a while, it seems returning to the same level of friendship has now become futile.

    Thanks for the lovely tips and great post.

    1. Ok, first of all, I really have to apologize for this monstrously late reply! I actually thought I replied much sooner but it turns out that WordPress (or maybe my internet connection?) went wonky and didn’t post my original earlier reply many weeks ago. Totally my bad.

      And, yes, that can be a very sticky situation to be in and the potential for awkwardness is unparalleled. The closer you used to be with that person the more you’re going to realize that getting closure with them once you are no longer a part of each other’s lives is, really, almost impossible. You just have to make peace with it and trudge along with this minor annoyance that will fade over time.

      Thank you for your consistently strong comments, man! Truly appreciated.

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